“Sobriety is a prescription, recovery is a lifestyle”.  Let me go on record for saying that. 

I woke up the other morning thinking about the difference between sobriety and recovery and came up with that clever saying.  Truth be told I walk around most days thinking about the difference between recovery and sobriety.  For me sobriety was prescribed, I was told I needed to stop using drugs and alcohol, in other words I needed to get sober.  My doctor prescribed it for me, my parents prescribed it for me, friends prescribed it for me, and my therapist prescribed it for me.  Everyone except for me was telling me I needed to stop drinking and drugging.  I often hear people in various groups and meetings describe that their PO (probation officer) or the judge told them they had to …(fill in the blank) implying of course that it was prescribed for them as well.  It kind of lets us off the hook when someone other than ourselves is telling us what we need to do.  The other can be blamed and responsible for us when that happens and we can go on doing whatever we want to.  I see that happen a great deal.

Through my evolution and journey of recovery I have discovered that I choose to be in recovery, that it is much more than being sober, it is my lifestyle.   I want to live this way, I want to have freedom, happiness, joy, even responsibility, sadness are okay these days.  I want to live in balance in all areas of my life.  That is a part of why “just say no” doesn’t work.  It doesn’t teach us what to say yes to and really is another form of prescription.  You remember the ads with Nancy Reagan prescribing for us, “Just Say No” to alcohol and other drugs.  Well I needed to know what I could do, not just what I couldn’t do.  And then, I need to be able to make choices around that for myself.  It’s really awesome to explore the power of the choice to live in recovery.  It’s certainly not easy, for many of us it’s the hardest work we will ever do.  I get that now; I didn’t understand it for a long time.  Not drinking or using became easy, really a non-issue, it’s the other aspects that I can get tripped up with.  You know, physical, mental, and emotional.  I have been graced with a wonderful spiritual foundation that when I stay focused brings me to freedom indeed.  The lifestyle is incomplete if I simply focus on that aspect.  Today I choose freedom and discovery.  It is important for me to develop all aspects of myself.  To really live recovery, what an awesome lifestyle!

Until next time,

Peace, Jan

Greetings all,

So I’ve been kicking around the notion of “selling recovery” for quite some time and thought I would introduce it as a topic on my blog, generate discussion and hopefully get some feedback on it.

What are your thoughts on the subject I wonder?  Is it possible for us to help others by making recovery something that people will actually want?  What do people think of when they hear the word “recovery” or “I’m in recovery?”  Do people say, “that’s awesome, I want to be in recovery too,” or do they simply continue along their same path?

We posted as our survey question this month; “people need to hit bottom in order to recover.”  Although we have not received many responses, those we have received are very different.  What makes this so?  If addiction is a disease as we say it is, wouldn’t that suggest the earlier the detection and treatment the better the outcome, or at least the potential for a better outcome?  Why then do so many of us believe that we need to “hit bottom” in order to recover?  If we thought differently perhaps more people would actually recover and even better maybe more people would seek recovery sooner.  How about that for a notion!

Now, I am not suggesting that I have any answers. No, actually it seems that I am posing quite a few questions.  I do have opinions, and yes I have heard that opinions are like *%^#@, everyone has one.  I’m interested in hearing yours.

Please chime in.

Until next time

Peace, Jan

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Greetings all,

It has been some time since I last blogged.  Sorry it has taken so long for me to do so.  I am still getting used to this notion.  I will improve.

I thought this time I would write an update of what we are up to at SpiritWorks these days.

So, things are exciting at SpiritWorks.  We recently entered into a contract with the Colonial Services Board to provide Recovery Support Services for more people in the community.  We hired a full time Recovery Support Specialist to support the growth in our program services.  We hosted a movie event to honor and celebrate Children of Alcoholics Week and we held a rocking Super Bowl Party.

We have also expanded our services with the Children’s Program (CFAR) and have a W&M graduate student working with children at risk in groups and individually.  His presence is very exciting as we are also developing a Summer Camp to augment the program.

We are now offering regular workshops, Yoga, Mandala Journaling, and Awakenings, to mention a few and are pleased to be able to do so.  We continue to offer space at the Recovery Center for outside meetings and groups.  It is a wonderful way to deepen our presence in the larger community and allow others to get to experience the Center in a non-threatening way.  Many people wonder what we do at the center.  We, of course, know that everyone knows someone with this disease.  It is a win-win for everyone.  Please check the Web site for specific dates and additional information, www.spiritworksfoundation.org.

That’s all I’ve got for now.  Thanks for taking a few minutes to catch up with us.  It’s great to have an audience.

Until next time,

Take care.

Peace, Jan

I often hear talk that there is no cure for addiction.  Through the years I myself have said those very words, and while I believe that to be true in this moment, I am today wondering, HOW COME?

HOW COME we have not advanced to the stage where there is at least some wondering or questioning around the issue?  Are we content in our knowledge that there is not cure for this disease?  And, if so why?

Is there anyone out there looking for a cure?  I “googled” that very notion, “cure addiction” and got no real hits.  I also “googled” Alzheimer’s’ cure, Parkinson’s cure, diabetes cure and AIDS cure.  Each of those resulted in information and organization Web sites that are doing research on finding a cure.

So, what is it about the disease of addiction that we are comfortable with knowing that there is no cure and not caring enough, willing or even believing to demand that we look for one?

I for one am ready to demand that we begin to look.  And, although it might not come about during my lifetime, I am willing to do my part and be a part of the solution.

So, what about you?  Where do you stand on finding the cure to addiction?  Are you willing to advance this issue?

Let’s talk about it.  I’d love to hear what you think.

Peace, Jan

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So last week I was watching the TODAY show and the third or fourth item in was the relapse of a Kennedy, Joan Kennedy, to be exact, and how she was found lying in the street.

My question is how many of you knew that Joan Kennedy was sober in the first place?  I for one did not.  It is difficult for me to understand why it is such big news when someone relapses or goes into treatment again and we hear nothing about how someone is doing living in recovery.  To me it reinforces the stigma and shame associated with the disease and the belief that people really don’t ever recover.

It is sad to say that I can name more celebrities and famous people who are practicing alcoholics and addicts that I can celebrities and famous people who are in recovery.  What an incredible commentary that is.  So, how do we make that different?  Do we really want to make it different?  I for one do, there is something about knowing that I am not alone, the hope that I get from knowing that there are others who are in recovery inspires me to stay on course.  I would imagine it does so for others as well.

For the past few months SpiritWorks polled with the question, do you think it’s important for people in recovery to be open about their addiction?  We only received a few responses to the question; the majority of the responses were yes, only one said no.  What are your thoughts on the subject?  Are the shame and guilt, stigma and discrimination that prevail in our society associated with our secrecy about our illness and recovery?  And, if so who among us is willing to be open about living in recovery?  Is there a champion or celebrity in recovery who will come forward as a spokesperson or role model for others to follow?

We need your help, I need your help.  All of us need to have role models and heroes to look up to.  I for one do.  I need to be inspired to be like so and so, to be able to point out to others and say there is a person who is successful that is living in recovery and chooses not to drink or do drugs, to be able to affirm that if he or she can do it so can I.

There are plenty of other famous people and celebrities who are open about living with cancer, or AIDS, or diabetes, or depression or…  Where are our spokespeople?  Who among us is willing to step up?

Please contact me, whoever you are, for further discussion about the topic or if you want to be among the champions.

Thanks.

Until next time,

Peace, Jan